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Hi. I'm Terrence.
Most people call me Biggg T.
I'm 53 years old, and I have spent my whole life being direct with people because I never really learned another way.
That directness has cost me things. It has also saved my life.
This page is the longer version of who I am, why I do what I do, and what I actually believe. It's not a resume. It's a conversation.
About the name
There are three g's in Biggg for a reason.
Big is one thing.
Biggg with three g's is a whole other conversation.
I never think of myself as a big guy. I know I'm tall. I know I'm not small. But in my head, I move through the world without thinking about it. Then I see myself in a picture, or someone hands me a group photo, or a video of me at an event shows up on my phone, and I look at it and go, oh. That guy is huge.
That's the first g.
The second g is that when I walk into a room, my personality walks in with me. I have never been good at being quiet, small, or in the background. I don't take up space on purpose. I just take up space. My laugh is loud. My opinions are direct. My presence is not subtle.
If you have ever been at a party with me, you know exactly which corner of the room I was in without having to look.
That's the second g.
The third g is that when I care about you, you know it. I hug hard. I check in when I say I will. I remember what you told me the last time we talked. I show up for the people in my life the way I wish more people would show up for me, which is fully and without keeping score.
That is the third g.
Big describes a body. Biggg with three g's describes a whole person. It also happens to look like something my kids would write on a school project, which is fine. My kids are why I do most of what I do anyway.
The people I do this for
My family is the whole point.
Maria.
Maria has been my wife for 17 years.
She is the mother of Samuel and Theo, and she has been the stepmother to Sara, Meghan, and Matthew since they were young. She is the reason our family and household function. She is the mortar between the bricks.
While I have spent 17 years chasing ideas, launching things, reinventing myself, and trying new versions of me, Maria has kept the home steady. Every time I came home with a new plan, she took a deep breath and let me run at it. She held the fort down while I explored. That kind of steadiness is not a small thing.
My kids.
Five kids across a spread of years that makes me laugh sometimes.
- Sara 28
- Meghan 26
- Matthew 24
- Samuel 16
- Theo 12
I have a daughter who's an adult with a life of her own and a son who still needs help finding his shoes. Being their dad is the best job I have ever had, and I have had a lot of jobs.
Sara is engaged to Brent, who will officially become family in October. He's already family the way that matters.
If any of the work I put out into the world ever makes their lives easier, or gives them a better version of me as a dad, then it was worth it.
God's plan
God's plan.
Whether you believe in a higher power, the universe, or the big bang theory, life happens when you least expect it.
In 2005 I lost my first wife, Maureen, to brain cancer. She left me with three small children. Sara was six. Meghan was five. Matthew was three. Overnight, I went from being a husband and a father to being a single dad of three under seven, trying to figure out how to run a household on grief and coffee.
The immediate loss knocked me to my knees. It would knock anyone to their knees. But the long-term outcome is not something I can question. Because what came after that loss was Maria. And Samuel. And Theo. Two more sons I would not have if life had gone differently. A wife who has been beside me for 17 years. A family of eight that gets to stand on a bridge together and smile.
I don't have a clean answer for what any of it means. But I know this. You get to choose what you focus on. The past, the present, or the future. And whichever one you focus on, your life is going to move in that direction.
I choose the present with some future on the side. Not because I have forgotten the past. Because I know now that tomorrow isn't promised. So why not enjoy the hell out of today. Find the joy and the laughter and the smiles between the sadness. Because you never know what plans are being set up for you.
Who I am
Who I am.
I am a smart ass. I am a funny guy. I am a risk taker. I am an empath to a fault, which means I feel other people's pain harder than I probably should, and I have never learned how to stop.
I will outwork the toughest guy on the job. But I will do it with style. And I will do it in a way that makes you feel like my teammate, not my competitor. Even if we are both going for the same thing.
When everything is going sideways, when the plan falls apart, when the situation gets bad, I am the guy in the room who stays calm. Not because I don't feel it. Because I have learned that whatever this is, it's a lesson pointing at something better. I might not know what that something is yet. But I trust that it's there.
That's not naive optimism. That's what 53 years of watching my own life unfold has taught me. Every road block has been an opportunity dressed differently. Every loss has come with something I couldn't have seen at the time. Every hard conversation I didn't want to have has led to something on the other side that I couldn't have gotten to without having it.
If that's the kind of person you want to work with, read, or listen to, we're going to get along fine.
The work
How I spend my days.
I have been coaching people since 2009. Executives, business owners, moms going back to work, athletes, college students, and everyday people who needed someone to tell them the truth. That's where the coaching philosophy behind The Bear Hug and The Corner comes from. It's not a program I invented last year. It's 17 years of watching people finally admit what they had been afraid to say out loud.
I still consult in the medical device and pharmaceutical world through my company Qualeration. It's real work with clients I care about, and it keeps me honest about what it takes to actually run a business, not just talk about running one.
I own a gym called TIYT Fitness for adults getting back into fitness. I own a facility we call The Mullet, which is a bar that also has a few business offices in it because that's how I do things.
I wrote a book called Punch Average in the Face because after 17 years of having the same conversation with different people in different rooms, I finally had to write it down. The book is the foundation. The podcast is where I keep the conversation going. The coaching is where we take it into your actual life.
None of that is a career strategy. It's just what my life looks like when I let it be what it is.